So a couple of nights ago I was talking to a young man in our ward who has
been dating a young woman in our ward throughout the summer. I think I can say he is in love with
her. I’ve watched them and have to agree with many that
they are a great match. He told me she
is “his twin.” Here’s the problem, she is leaving to go back to her
home in California because she was not accepted to attend BYU in the fall or
winter and she has been accepted into a program back home into a field she’s been trying to get
into. He is going to BYU and has checked
into transferring to a school in CA but his credits will not transfer. Neither want to have a long distance
relationship and neither one wants this to be the end. WHAT A DELEMA!
So they
have this problem and don’t know what to do. And no one can tell them what to do, but some
advise can never hurt. In our religion, we truly believe that God helps us
make these important decisions by promptings from the Holy Ghost and from
advice from others. We also believe that
we are “instruments in God’s hands” (see Alma17: 9,11) and He
uses us to help others. With that said,
I felt impressed to offer some advise to this great young man.
This is the
email I sent to him:
"As I walked this morning I listened to a talk by Russell M. Ballard from the April 2012 conference. There
were some things he said that I thought related to you and K as you try to
figure out what to do now. There's a
lot that doesn't but you still ought to read or listen to it.
Some things to think about (quotes from his talk):
When
people make family and religious commitments to gospel principles, they begin
to do better spiritually and often temporally as well.
the most
important cause of our lifetime is our families. If we will devote
ourselves to this cause, we will improve every other aspect of our lives and
will become, as a people and as a church, an example and a beacon for all
peoples of the earth.
may I
suggest that we prioritize. Put everything you do outside the home in
subjection to and in support of what happens inside your home.
Remove any
of your fear with faith. Trust the power of God to guide you.
To you who
are not yet married, pay careful attention to finding your eternal companion…..
And to you
young women, I would add that you must also not lose sight of this
responsibility. No career can bring you as much fulfillment as rearing a
family. And when you are my age, you will realize this even more.
As you
seek to live the gospel and doctrine of Christ, the Holy Ghost will guide you
and your family. You will have a spiritual GPS to tell you always where you are
and where you are going.
Me again to my friend…I can't tell you what to do. You can't tell K what
to do, but I will say, if she is the "one" for you or rather if she
is the one you would love to be with forever, then don't lose her. Don't let
her go. Find a way to make this work. (Is there a different school around here that she can get the same degree? etc.) Trust the Lord.
Remember to
do the things that Pres. Mullen (our Stake President) has counseled us: read your
scriptures daily, pray daily, attend the temple, follow the for strength of youth pamphlet, and act and don't be acted upon. The Lord will bless you for
your efforts. He loves you and He wants you to be happy and He
will guide you and help you. Seek His inspiration."
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